Category: Limiting beliefs

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How Low Self-Esteem Impacts Relationships

Low self-esteem can have a significant impact on our relationships with others. When we don’t feel good about ourselves, we may struggle to connect with others, trust them, or communicate effectively. Here are some ways that low self-esteem can impact our relationships:

Low self-esteem has impact on intimate relatioships.

1. Difficulty Trusting Others

When we suffer from low self esteem and don’t feel good about ourselves, we may struggle to trust others. We may feel like we’re not worthy of love or respect, which can lead us to believe that others will inevitably let us down. This can make it difficult to form close relationships or to open up to others.

2. Communication Problems

Low self-esteem can also impact our ability to communicate effectively with others. We may struggle to express our needs and emotions, or we may find ourselves becoming defensive or argumentative when others try to communicate with us. This can create tension and conflict in our relationships.

3. Neediness and Insecurity

When we have low self esteem, we may become overly dependent on others for validation and support. This can lead to neediness and insecurity in our relationships, which can be overwhelming for our partners. We may also struggle to set boundaries or to assert ourselves in our relationships.

4. Negative Self-Talk

Low self-esteem can also lead to negative self-talk, which can impact our relationships in subtle ways. We may be overly critical of ourselves, which can lead us to be critical of others as well. We may also struggle to accept compliments or positive feedback from our partners, which can create tension and frustration.

5. Difficulty Resolving Conflicts

Finally, low self-esteem can make it difficult for us to resolve conflicts in our relationships. We may struggle to see our own role in the conflict, or we may become defensive or shut down when our partners try to address issues with us. This can lead to unresolved conflicts and ongoing tension in our relationships.

Low self-esteem can have a significant impact on our relationships with others. If you struggle with low self-esteem, it’s important to work on building your self-confidence and self-worth. This can help you to form healthier, more fulfilling relationships with others. Remember, you are worthy of love and respect, and you deserve to be treated with kindness and compassion.

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Christine Bennett – https://www.caring4couples.com.au

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Changing Beliefs With Brainwave Entrainment

What is Brainwave Entrainment?

Brainwave entrainment uses technology to assist the brain to access specific frequencies depending on what we would like to achieve.

In the normal waking state our brains usually operate at Beta frequency. When we are relaxed and during meditation, the brain enters Alpha frequency allowing us to feel calm and relaxed as acetylcholine is released.

If the brain operates for long periods in high Beta frequencies, agitation and anxiety may result from an excessive production of dopamine. Brainwave entrainment is a particularly useful way of rapidly altering the brainwave frequencies to assist in reducing anxiety or depression.

meditation-musicBrainwave States and Frequency Following Response

Using brainwave entrainment, access to particular brainwave states is possible where learning, belief changes and change of mood can take place in an extraordinary way.

There is a natural tendency of the brain to have a Frequency Following Response. The brain tends to tune in to the rhythms of what is around in the environment. For example, when the brain tunes in to catchy dance music, the body is usually inclined to move in sync with the music and mood is likely to improve accordingly.

So with brainwave entrainment, beats and frequencies are used to enable the brain to reach the preferred brainwave state for optimal learning or personal change. The neurons in the brain then start firing at specific frequencies. When this happens, neurochemicals and endorphins are released.

Brainwave Entrainment, Belief Changes and Emotional State Regulation

When brainwave entrainment is combined with affirmations, the affirmations are far more effective in reaching the subconscious mind where real change occurs. While operating in Theta frequency, the brain releases a hormone called LTP (Long Term Potentiation). Without this hormone, your affirmations may be heard, but they are not retained.

During childhood between the ages of 2 and 6 years, the brain operates mainly in Theta. This is why children are so susceptible to taking on beliefs as well as having an amazing capacity to learn.

Overcoming Anxiety and Depression

Brainwave entrainment has been shown to increase neural pathways. More are actually created. This is useful for creating new happiness pathways to overcome anxiety and depression as well as new learning and personal change. Brainwave entrainment is even more effective than hypnosis. Negative belief patterns and beliefs can be changed in a similar way to hypnotic induction, only at a much deeper level. This makes any type of personal change that much easier. By simply listening to brainwave technology with recorded affirmations on a digital music device (with headphones), significant change becomes readily achievable.

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Mental Health Month October

Mental Health Day is officially October 10 and so the focus for this month is on mental wellbeing.

“The theme for Mental Health Month this year is ‘beYOUnique!’ This theme promotes acceptance and an understanding of the impact that being proud of who we are can have on our wellbeing.”
Source and more information is available at Mental Health Association NSW.

SO what makes you unique? What is special about you  that is appreciated by your friends, work colleagues, family or loved ones?

affirmations-downloadsSome people may have a problem answering those questions – particularly if there was little or no healthy development of self worth in the formative years.

Healthy, well functioning parenting usually results in healthy, well functioning children who leave the nest as healthy, well functioning, independent adults, ready to make their way in the wider world.

If you are suffering from anxiety, depression or poor (even mediocre)  self image, chances are your upbringing may have been less than optimal. Statistically this means the majority of humans walking this Earth today have some level of wounding that can be triggered by a look, a word, a deed when least expected.

Negative thought patterns are often initiated in this way. You may have felt criticised or just heard a comment that set off your internal wounding with corresponding negative thoughts and feelings. This can vary from mild discomfort through feelings of shame or humiliation through to a full blown panic attack.

The person most likely to have this impact is your nearest and dearest. They are the one who matters the most. There is usually a significant emotional investment in the relationship with your significant other. That makes it important to keep the boat from rocking too hard – or worse sinking. This is where defence mechanisms come into play and usually only succeed in making matters worse – creating a bigger disconnect.

The Imago Dialogue is great as an alternative to defence games and will usually result in deeper understanding and rapport with your partner. Better than days of the cold shoulder! It is a way of  communication which makes it safe to discuss sensitive, emotionally charged issues with your partner.

Actions you can take right now

  1. Visit the Mental Health Association NSW and download your Mental Health Month NSW Starter Kit.
  2. Light a candle in a quiet place with pen and paper or your smart device and write down at least three qualities you have that are unique to you and express gratitude for having these gifts.
  3. Go a step further! Each night before you go to bed, quietly contemplate and add an additional quality to your list for the whole month of October!!
  4. Paste the list somewhere you will see it every day or make it your home screen on your fave digital whizz bang.
  5. Enjoy!!

About the author:
Christine Bennett is a private practitioner committed to a non-judgmental approach of helping couples, individuals and families enjoy more fulfilling, loving relationships with themselves and others. Christine also helps separated couples reach agreements for parenting plans, financial settlements and bullying disputes.

Websites managed by Christine Bennett:
Caring4Couples | Christine Bennett Consulting | Psyche-Care |
North Shore Family Mediation | Stop the Bullying
© Christine Bennett

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Reprogram your subconscious mind

It is difficult to ignore the increasing information being presented through scientific research about the brain and the mind. How our brain works and which part is responsible for different functions, is being reported on a daily basis. “Neuroplasticity” seems to be the new buzz word around scientific and therapeutic circles and Bruce Lipton PhD, stem cell biologist (best selling author of Biology of Belief), is busy spreading the word on the extraordinary power of our subconscious mind comparative to the measly 5% influence of our conscious mind.

Cells carry memories of our beliefs and can be reprogrammed.
Cells carry memories of our beliefs and can be reprogrammed.

Bruce Lipton’s research and information about how cells work and how the mind works, in addition to using techniques such as EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic-Programing with my clients, has led me to experiment with affirmations recorded with theta brain wave frequencies and a non-intrusive sound track.

So, if you were my client and wanted to change some aspect of your life, we would explore what beliefs you may be harboring in your subconscious that were sabotaging your conscious desires to change. And according to Bruce Lipton the subconscious is one million times more powerful than conscious will power – so there needs to be some heavy duty mechanism available to change long-held, firmly entrenched self limiting beliefs.

So in addition to techniques outlined above, I record a set of positive affirmations based on your own desires for change and give you your own unique set of affirmations to listen to on a daily basis through headphones while in a relaxed state. There is tons of research that shows that affirmations on their own do NOT work! This is because of the power differential of the subconscious saboteurs and conscious desires. I’ve already mentioned which side will win!

So the only way to win is to  access the subconscious mind and make changes where the limiting beliefs originated before the tender age of seven years. The language of the affirmations needs to be simple – keeping in mind that the original beliefs were formed when language skills were that of an infant.

The recorded affirmations need to be heard in a brain state that bypasses conscious objections and ridicule. This is why the theta brainwave is important. This is the brainwave state in which a pre-seven-year-old mostly experiences life and what survival mechanisms will ensure survival in their family. This is  mighty important stuff for the survival in the family of origin. However it rarely, if ever works in adult intimate relationships.

I found a podcast today where Bruce Lipton offers seven ways to reprogram the subconscious mind. I hope you find it interesting!

About the author:
Christine Bennett is a private practitioner committed to a non-judgmental approach of helping couples, individuals and families enjoy more fulfilling, loving relationships with themselves and others. Christine also helps separated couples reach agreements for parenting plans, financial settlements and bullying disputes.

Websites managed by Christine Bennett:
Caring4Couples | Christine Bennett Consulting | Psyche-Care |
North Shore Family Mediation | Stop the Bullying
© Christine Bennett

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