When someone we love dies, we have social rituals to help with the pain of loss. What do we have though, when a relationship breaks down? Where are the social rituals such as a funeral followed by a wake?<\/p>\n
This may sound a bit morbid when thinking of a love relationship. However, morbid is exactly how a lot of people feel when they lose a lover or partner through relationship break-down.<\/p>\n
Often a big dark hole is the feeling in the pit of the stomach where joy once resided. So how to cope?<\/p>\n
Following is an article about some ways people deal with relationship break-up, found on the Grief Recovery website<\/a> by Allison James. John W. James<\/strong> and Russell Friedman<\/strong> are the founders of The Grief Recovery Institute\u00ae<\/sup><\/strong> and authors of The Grief Recovery Handbook<\/strong>. Their book is available for FREE DOWNLOAD on the website.<\/a><\/p>\n Common Responses to Break-Ups and How They Hurt you<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n “With every romantic relationship there are:<\/p>\n – A new couple might hope to become more serious or look forward to waking up each morning to a text message from each other.<\/p>\n – A couple who have been together longer might expect to have children, dream of vacations together, or begin to plan for retirement.<\/p>\n – Many women start to plan their dream wedding no matter how long they\u2019ve been dating \u2013whether or not their boyfriends know about it is inconsequential<\/em>!<\/em><\/p>\n Couples also create habits and rituals. \u00a0Habits as simple as doing the dishes together at night, speaking on the phone each night at 5:00 pm or golfing on Sundays.<\/p>\n A common dream for an evolving relationship is that it will last forever.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n Then one day, for whatever reason, the relationship changes or ends.<\/strong><\/p>\n Their hopes, dreams, and expectations are crushed.<\/p>\n No one likes to feel bad so they do what most people are taught\u2026 pretend they are okay!\u00a0 In an attempt to protect themselves from future heartbreak many people say things like,<\/p>\n The problem is, that saying, \u201cI don\u2019t give a darn,\u201d<\/em> and actually not giving a darn, are two different things!<\/p>\n Have you said similar things?<\/p>\n Another thing people do after a break-up is anything and everything to avoid feeling heartbreak. Have you tried some of these things?<\/p>\n Although these activities might make you feel better short term, they don\u2019t allow you to get complete with the relationship that changed or ended.”<\/p>\n Click here to continue reading….<\/a><\/p>\n Relationship counselling by Christine Bennett caring4couples.com.au<\/a><\/p>\n\n
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