Love just like anything else in the Universe is subject to the Law of Attraction.<\/p>\n
This law states that like attracts like. It is a simple matter of physics and when it comes to love – our own emotions are what matters.<\/p>\n
How we feel about ourselves is vitally important to who we attract into our life as friends, colleagues, and most importantly intimate partners.<\/p>\n
So if we feel down on ourselves, we don’t feel good enough, confident enough, attractive enough – the list could go on and on…….then that is who we will attract as a partner. We will attract our mirror image. Whatever emotional wounding we have suffered during our childhood will be mirrored in our partner. Guarranteed!! This is the basis of the work of Harville Hendrix who is the author of “Getting the Love You Want<\/em>” amongst others.<\/p>\n Harville Hendrix is an American psychologist<\/a> who founded what he calls Imago Relationship Therapy. The foundation of the therapeutic process involves what is called the Imago Dialogue where the therapist facilitates a dialogue around a particular frustration that is getting in the way of the couple’s connection to one another. It is usually because a wound has been triggered and one or both partners have gone into their defense strategy, shutting each other out.<\/p>\n The concept of attracting a like person is illustrated very nicely by Denise Scarbro (Huffington Post, 27 July 2012) in her article “The Trick to Attracting Healthy Relationships<\/em>“.<\/p>\n Scarbro says, “Have you ever felt like you always attract a certain type of person? I know I have! The same kinds of people seem to present themselves to me all the time. They may have different faces and different names, but in the end the same themes are always there. Not too long ago, I kept finding myself with an emotionally unavailable boyfriend; misunderstood people gravitated to me; needy people always wanted to be my friend; and if there was ever an underdog, we inevitably somehow teamed up. I found myself thinking, “What am I putting out there to attract these people to me?”<\/p>\n For a while, I arrogantly thought I drew these people to me because I had so much strength. Maybe I was supposed to help fix them? Like a moths to a flame, they were drawn to me because my light was shining for everyone who needed my help. Well, my believed strength did not make the boyfriends emotionally available; I was not able to build the self-esteem of the needy people; the misunderstood never gained any new insights; and the underdogs were still underdogs no matter what wisdom and examples I thought I shared. I was usually left disappointed, hurt, or annoyed. So why was I attracting these people?”<\/p>\n Click here to continue reading “The Trick to Attracting Healthy Relationships<\/em>“.<\/a><\/p>\n Please leave your comments. I’d love to hear from you!<\/p>\n Relationship Counselling by Christine Bennett Caring4Couples<\/a>
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